How to Avoid Wedding Planning Stress

I am putting together a Wedding Guide for my clients, full of useful tips on how to plan your day to have the best photos possible. It’s my first attempt at being a writer! If you are looking for advice on how to design a laid-back, non-traditional, personal, relaxed wedding, this is something you might enjoy :-)

Here is something I wrote in one of the first revisions of my wedding planning guide.

How to Avoid Wedding Planning Stress

 

Navigating Conflict

You might have started to notice that wedding planning can be reason for some conflicts. This is a well-known phenomenon :)

Most times people want to get involved because they truly want to help. They want your day to be special and perfect. When the conflicts start creeping in, remember your guests love you and they mean well. Remember your parents probably have been dreaming about your wedding day way longer than you have. Your friends want this day to be the most beautiful of your life. Your grandparents want you to truly understand how important this is. Yes, this is a celebration of your love. But this is also a day full of symbols and meanings, for everybody involved.

I think the best you can do is to try to delegate tasks. There is always someone who is super crafty, or who is super organized and disciplined, or with amazing taste for wine… Ask for help and play with your guests’ strengths. Give in when it comes to things that are less important to you. And for things that are really important to you two, stand your ground. In the end your guests will realize that the things & traditions they considered to be vital were not that important after all. (Trust me on this, Jaanus and I got married IN SECRET and the world didn’t come to an end!)

So take a deep breath, give in a little, stand your ground a little, and HAVE FUN!!!

Stockholm Archipelago Island Wedding

Ibland kan man bli stressad av att försöka planera ett bröllop. Kom ihåg att gästerna ofta vill inblanda sig eftersom de älskar er, och önskar er bara det bästa. Ofta har era föräldrar drömt om ert bröllop länge innan ni gjorde det (sedan ni föddes? haha). Era vänner vill att dagen ska vara perfekt. Först av allt, ta ett djup andetag :-) Viktigaste är att ha roligt under bröllopsplaneringen och själva bröllopsdagen!

Passa på och använd era gästers styrkor i planeringen. Om någon är jätte duktig med göra-det-själv, om en annan är super organiserad, en annan vet allt om hur en bra vin ska smaka… Låt de hjälpa! För de saker som inte känns extra viktiga för er, kan ni gärna ta förslag från gästerna. Och för allt som är verkligen viktigt för er, strunt i vad andra tycker och gör det precis som ni vill. Allt handlar om att hitta balans!

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  • Bo

    on March 19, 2016  15:11

    Väldigt bra och goda råd. Det märks att du också har varit på bröllop eftersom fotografen alltid blir inblandad :-)

  • Julia

    on March 20, 2016  22:07

    Maira,

    Seu blog é uma beleza que só. Uma distração tão linda que mostra que sonhos podem se tornar realidade sim. Não estou de casamento marcado (na verdade acabei de terminar um namoro), mas quando for a minha vez eu quero você lá!

    • Maira Martins

      on March 21, 2016  14:10

      Que comentário mais lindo, Julia! Muito obrigada, me deixou muito feliz <3